Millie Bobby Brown, the talented young actress known for her captivating role in “Stranger Things,” recently sparked a critical dialogue on social media with a heartfelt video addressing the incessant scrutiny she faces regarding her appearance. In her message, she expresses dismay at the relentless criticism from adults who dissect her looks, stating, “The fact that adult writers are spending their time dissecting my face, my body, my choices, is disturbing.” As a journalist who frequently writes about the personal lives and appearances of women, this comment forced me to reflect deeply on my own role in shaping narratives about beauty and appearance in the public sphere.
As my own daughter navigates adolescence, the conversation surrounding beauty and self-worth has taken on new significance. While I grew up in an era that frequently lauded physical appearances, I find myself questioning whether this traditional paradigm is genuinely beneficial. Complimenting others on their looks can feel almost obligatory; yet, amidst this well-intentioned flattery, does it inadvertently perpetuate a superficiality that diminishes women’s intrinsic value?
Redefining Compliments: From Appearance to Character
The heart of the matter lies in how we see and converse about beauty. I often wonder if we can foster self-esteem in more meaningful ways. My daughter suggests emphasizing qualities such as kindness, intelligence, and humor over physical attributes. Instead of crowning someone for their “stunning hair,” what if we praised their generosity or wit? This shift in language not only promotes a more profound understanding of a person’s value but also fosters connections based on true appreciation of character.
Additionally, I find myself guilty of belittling compliments. In the past, I would quickly downplay any praise about my appearance with self-deprecating humor. This reflex, although societal in nature, underscores a damaging trend—where women often feel the need to divert attention away from themselves rather than embrace and acknowledge the positive feedback they receive. By doing this, we inadvertently reinforce a culture of undervaluing one another, contributing to a cycle that encourages women to judge each other and themselves harshly.
A Journalist’s Responsibility: Shaping Empowering Narratives
As I continue my career as a journalist, I remain acutely aware of the language I choose and its potential ramifications. Every article I write can either contribute to a culture that elevates women’s voices or one that reduces them to mere objects of scrutiny based solely on their appearance. While writing about current beauty trends and fashion choices can be entertaining, it is essential to shift the tone of these conversations. We can celebrate women’s accomplishments and their unique styles without resorting to critical analysis of their bodies or faces.
Moreover, I, too, have felt the sting of online negativity. Comments such as “Which one is the dog?” under my article alongside a photo of my pet serve as a stark reminder of how easy it is to lose sight of empathy in the digital age. Although I’ve learned to brush off such remarks, they highlight the pervasive culture of objectifying individuals and reducing them to mere subjects of ridicule.
Empowerment through Language
If we collectively endeavor to reshape our conversations around beauty, we stand to foster an environment that underscores empowerment rather than criticism. This entails being mindful of the language we employ—not only when discussing public figures but also in our daily interactions with one another. As we celebrate the richness of women’s stories, we highlight their complexities, talents, and positive traits beyond the surface.
By choosing to focus on character and achievements, we can create space for women to feel valued for who they are, not just how they look. This cultural shift can propel us toward a more supportive landscape where individual beauty is acknowledged but does not overshadow the deeper qualities that warrant appreciation and admiration.
Ultimately, the onus lies on all of us—journalists, creators, and everyday individuals—to contribute to a culture that enhances confidence and nurtures self-acceptance, creating a brighter collective future for women everywhere.